Hey, hey, hey! How are you all doing? I hope you’re well. I’m typing this on a Sunday, so I am determining when I’ll finish this or if I will ever return to it. It’s 8:38, and I’m kind of tipsy thinking about what I want to talk about. The only thing that keeps popping up like an annoying bee in the summertime is that we are so overwhelmed with information about love in this day and age. Everyone is scared nowadays to be vulnerable and show themselves in a true light. Why is that? Bring back REAL LOVERS.
We are living in scarce times. The coronavirus has passed, bills are due, and the cost of living is high, with the minimum wage staying the same throughout it all. It is more normalized to be selfish even when you’re dealing with love. That doesn’t sound right, but maybe it’s me. *shrugs* I’m so disappointed that I missed when a man would pull up with a boombox outside your house, not caring about who he sees or disturbs; the only thing on his mind is the one he loves. Scratch that! What about a message in a bottle or a long letter sealed in an envelope with a kiss? WHAT HAPPENED TO CHILVARY?!
In the generation where TikTok is alive and present, there’s an overload of dating advice, specifically on things not to do and avoid. As we all know, one of our fellow queens, SheraSeven, speaks on preventing a “dusty” and dating a provider. The advice can be good to follow, but sometimes, it’s used as a moral compass rather than a note to keep. By doing that, we end up ruining genuine connections, looking past someone as to what they can provide and not even self-reflecting on how we can provide for ourselves first. Did that make sense? I hope so; this drink is beating my ass, sorry!
I had to mute specific words on TikTok because I’m tired of hearing unwarranted advice on men. Imagine using TikTok as an escape, and as you’re swiping through videos, you’re constantly hearing: “If a man does this… he does not want you,” “If he does this… he’s cheating on you,” “Things to look out for when talking to a man…” like STOP! I appreciate the effort, but I am fine; I am good. Thank you very much, but no, thank you. All in all, life is full of mistakes. You won’t have a flawless love life; that’s impossible.
Nobody is perfect, especially in the realm of love. Love is unexplainable, and research is being done to make it concrete. If you want to do something out of love, DO IT. If you want to express your love to someone but don’t know if they feel the same way, who cares?! DO IT. Everyone is so adamant about being a perfect product of themselves that we need REAL lovers back. Maybe it’s you. :*
so so so real!
lmao omg this was so cute and introspective post because i know a lot of people feel like this… and i too find it annoying seeing posts like that on social media because it just makes me scared to even try to get in a relationship with someone on top of already having my own trust issues….. but when you tune out the noise and realize no one’s love life is going to be perfect you kind of get to breathe a little.. even if you are being delusional for a bit. i guess my new motto in love is really just to believe someone is who they say they are until they show me otherwise. after they show me who they are, it’s up to me to forgive their “mistake” or go my own way
exactly. it’s just too much unprovoked advice clouding every form of social media, i’m just naturally restrictive of anything whether it is good. thank you so much darius for your perspective on this, i’m just glad i’m not the only one getting tired of it.